What all women need to know about Men’s body hair

Firstly, I want to tell you that as a woman I like my partners body hair on his chest, legs and certain parts of his arms. He looks manly and I would never suggest he remove hair on these parts of my body, not even trim them. In saying that I do have friends who prefer that their partner trim their chest, leg, arm and pubic hair, or have them completely hairless altogether, so each to their own as with anything in life.

I’m sharing this story with you as I get that 90% of men would not even bother doing all of the research, and let’s face it, a lot of our guys don’t know where to even start when it comes to body hair grooming. So let me get to the point, my partner was in his late 30’s and started to notice that he growing hair in parts of my body that he didn’t like so much, like on his shoulders, upper arms and worst of all for him, his back. He was embarrassed to take his t-shirt off at the beach, and at the time we had not been together for too long, so he was intimidated to get undressed in front of me. He started looking at ways to get rid of the hair on his back, and believe it or not, he actually went through all of these stages:

Shaving the areas: He already obviously had a razor, so he started to remove the hair on my back, shoulders and upper arms using the same razor he used on his face. I had also suggested politely that he needed to manage his man bush, so apart from scissors he used a razor down there as well to keep it looking neat and tidy. This solution unfortunately came with many issues. The first was that after 3 days, just like on his face stubble began to develop, it was not only very itchy for him but because it was regrown it was just like having stubble on his face, except on his back, upper arms, shoulders and downstairs…and we have all felt what that is like on the face, right? needless to say when we were intimate I mentioned to him jokingly that hes felt like a cactus down there…but seriously it was painful for me and seriously uncomfortable for him. The second issue, and this is the dangerous one…was that the razor nicked him a few times down there, which was scary! So he came to an almost immediate realisation that this was not the solution that would be suitable.

Trimming with a trimmer: He has a beard as well, so that means that he had another tool to shave his body hair with, his beard trimmer. This was a quicker process, but had almost the exact same result as shaving, including the itchiness downstairs and the stubble on his back…and needless to say the danger downstairs with nicking and cutting his preciousness.

Epilation and waxing: A couple of months had gone by and he was getting a little desperate for a resolution, So I went out and bought a women’s epilator for him… which was so embarrassing for him! It was a lot better than shaving or trimming in terms or the regrowth on his back but it was painful for him and obviously not permanent. There were areas he would not be using the epilator for, like downstairs…So I suggested my waxer who did male Brazilians.….wow, it’s definitely true that a man’s pain threshold is lower than women’s, but just imagine waxing loose skin…. He was also incredibly embarrassed having to expose himself to a women to do such a service for him. He still was not happy with this as he would need to remove the hair once per month which was time consuming, painful and in the case of pubic hair, embarrassing and expensive.


       (My boyfriend "proudly" taking a pic of his epilator)

Salon Laser treatment: So a year had gone by since he started looking for a way to deal with the problem and at this stage I told him to just go to her laser therapist to get hair removal done there. I was reluctant to tell him in the first instance, as this procedure although not being used all over his body was not perceived as manly to him, he was hesitant but agreed. I didn’t tell him the cost of doing my legs and bikini line and he was shocked when he returned with the cost of €100 to have his back, upper arms and parts of my pubic hair done and was told he needed at least 8-10 sessions for it to work, it was again embarrassing for him and again he didn’t want to spend that much money.


He was at his wits end at this stage and thought that he had exhausted all avenues, He didn’t want to shave every two days all over his body or visit waxing clinics or spend close to €1,000 to have the hair removed on his back, arms and parts of his pubic hair. I did some reserarch online and found something for him, finally. An at home IPL laser… yeah I know most of us women are going well, no… duh, yeah? Well try and find a product for men! After the epilator situation I didn’t want to go down the path of buying a female or even a unisex product. I did some research and found that there are only a couple of offerings on the market at the moment.


When I bought his device he used it once per week, a simple shave and then zap... takes about an hour, which is time consuming I know and I had to help him out for his upper and mid back, but after 8 weeks his hair was all but gone, Finally! His back is completely hair free with no stubble and his confidence is at a level I'd not seen since we have been together. On top of that he was always complaining about the sensitive skin on his neck and how irritated it would get when he shaved, so he used in on his neck and now he only has to shave the hair on his face.


So in my opinion after doing some research and going through all of the stages myself with my man, this is what you want to avoid, and look out for if and when you are looking at a permanent hair removal solution for your man:


  • Don’t buy generic products: There are a lot of cheap Chinese offerings that give no guarantees or refunds, and because of this they either don’t work as advertised, or have not been adequately tested to pass CE and RoHs: A CE Mark is a symbol that must be affixed to many products before they can be sold on the European, North American and Australasia. The mark indicates that a product fulfills the requirements of relevant  product directives, performance and safety standards. Restriction of the Use of certain Hazardous Substances (or RoHs) in Electrical and Electronic Equipment (RoHS) Products compliant with this directive do not dangerous or potentially harmful materials: lead, mercury, cadmium, hexavalent chromium, polybrominated biphenyls (PBB) and polybrominated diphenyl ethers (PBDE) and a lot of other big fancy words that basically mean that they are safe for use. Remember that this is for your man’s skin so don’t skimp on quality, remember that when it comes to IPL, you want a cost effective solution for your man but something that is safe to use.
  • A product that looks masculine: having gone through this with my partner I can tell you that this procedure in itself is embarrassing for them, and as I mentioned above, I had bought him a product which was geared towards the female market in the epilator (which he has since thrown in the bin). Thank God when it comes to IPL there are a couple of offerings on the market which look the part for a man, So do him a favor and get him something that looks good enough for him to want to use it.
  • Suitable for men’s body hair: Because men’s body hair is usually thicker than women’s, Men’s IPL’s work a little differently as well. When it comes to IPL, Spectrum lights are measured as wavelength – nm The nanometre is a unit of length in the metric system, equal to one billionth of a metre (0.000000001 m) Ideally you want to find a device that penetrates to wavelengths of 470nm to 1200nm, which means this spectrum light can penetrate up to 1200nm deep beneath the skin. nm wavelength light is best attracted to melanin, so it's best application is for hair removal. There are a couple of “Men’s Solutions” on the market which are just basically re-branded unisex devices. So do your homework.
  • Guarantees: When I was shopping for his product there were a couple of options for money back guarantee, ranging from 60 days and up to 180 days. Because it does take a little time, and knowing that some weeks he might miss a week I made a choice based on which warranty option was most flexible. So a big factor in this decision making process was finding a product with a long warranty to make 100% sure that it works.
  • LCD Screen: Most men don’t have a clue how to use theses machines until they get it home and had a play around with it, and if I bought something which was without an LCD, he still would have gotten the hang of it but it would have taken a lot longer. Men are not accustomed to using these sort of devices unlike women, so make it stupid proof and get something that is user friendly.
  • Value for Money: You don’t necessarily have to buy the most expensive IPL available to get a great result, there are the major players in the grooming industry that no doubt offer a great product, but were almost twice the price on the model I chose, and I am very happy with the selection I made at the price point I went for.


So there you have it, if you click on the link you will have an option to buy the model I went for, which he was very happy with.. but this is just my opinion! Bookmark this page if you aren’t sure and take a look at some other options, but make sure you take into consideration all the points I’ve mentioned.

Dez x

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